I so wish that I could paint the picture of myself as a perfectly controlled - always does the right thing and always knows the best answer or solution kind of mommy, but I am a work in progress =o) I have often said that parenting has been my greatest learning place about myself! Gosh ... sometimes I am so surprised at what kind of attitudes come out of me! Anyone else know what I am talking about? It is that inner war that Paul talks about in ..... where your flesh wars against your spirit. You know the right response, but instead you react. This is something that the Lord and I are really working on. This weekend has encountered a couple of "strong words" between my girls and I. You know those moments when you have been pushed just a little too far?! And instead of healthy "strong words" ... anger seeps into correction and no one wins. While I have been working through this, the Lord reminded me of something He taught my hubby a while ago.
When the kids are all whiny and in an "I'm telling on" frame of mind we look at the kids and say "aaaahhhh ... weak words" ... but when we catch them encouraging or loving each other we make the hugest muscles and shout out "STRONG WORDS!!!".
It's such a good one for hubby and I too. I am so mindful that even as we correct and discipline our children we need to use loving "strong words". Words that build up and not criticize. Words that correct but also accept. Shew. I am learning lots of lessons but I wouldn't have it any other way. What a privilege that not only are my children learning from me, but I am learning loads through them. They are making me grow and develop Godly character. Now that's love in action don't you think. Practicing love in the nitty gritty moments of everyday life.
BIG hugs to you today xxx
Janine
When the kids are all whiny and in an "I'm telling on" frame of mind we look at the kids and say "aaaahhhh ... weak words" ... but when we catch them encouraging or loving each other we make the hugest muscles and shout out "STRONG WORDS!!!".
It's such a good one for hubby and I too. I am so mindful that even as we correct and discipline our children we need to use loving "strong words". Words that build up and not criticize. Words that correct but also accept. Shew. I am learning lots of lessons but I wouldn't have it any other way. What a privilege that not only are my children learning from me, but I am learning loads through them. They are making me grow and develop Godly character. Now that's love in action don't you think. Practicing love in the nitty gritty moments of everyday life.
BIG hugs to you today xxx
Janine
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praying for you and your sweet family during this difficult time...
Many Blessings!
Jill
I love your Christmas look for the blog.
My daughter has been the singularly most effective tool of God revealing my sinful and selfish attitudes. It does bring grief but it is beautiful how God has made us to want to do better for our children and my sin in her drops me to my knees like nothing else.
The walk is one of progress not perfection. Some days it feels like twos steps forward and one step back.
Have a wonderful and blessed day,
Jo
Love to you, Janine.
I LOVE you.
The sun and the earth and Jupiter and Mars.How loving and patient He must be, He's still working on me!"
Blessings and Merry Christmas!
I think I learn far more from my girls than they learn from me. I learn about how to love, how to be who God made me to be and much, much more. Not long ago, my ten year old asked me if I ever wished I hadn't had children, so it would be just my husband and I. I can't imagine my life without my daughters and I can't imagine who I would be. God is using them to shape and form me to His image.
God Bless You :-)
~Ron
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